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A Chilling Reality

Last night I read an absolutely heartbreaking article. The article released online yesterday by Time Magazine said…

Almost 40% of kids attempting suicide make their first try in middle or even elementary school, according to research that suggests that kids who think they want to kill themselves are considering it long before previously assumed.

About 1 in 9 children have attempted suicide before their high school graduation, but learning that they’re making plans as early as elementary school is especially chilling.

In a study published in the November issue of the Journal of Adolescent Health, researchers at the University of Washington surveyed 883 young adults ages 18 or 19 about previous suicide attempts and learned that 78 — close to 9% — had tried to commit suicide.

Suicide attempt rates rose steeply at age 12 — around sixth grade — and peaked two to three years later. The 39 teens who said they had tried to commit suicide multiple times reported first attempting when they were as young as 9, which is the average age of a third-grader. Teens who said they had tried just once were more likely to have attempted suicide later, in high school.

Being the father of three young boys I hardly have words to respond to this article.

I’m not going to attempt to explain why this is happening. Is it possible that kids have felt this way this early throughout history and we’re just now discover it? Sure. Is it possible we live in world where our kids are growing up faster than ever and they simply can’t handle the pressure being put on them? Sure.

What I do know is this:

1) As a parent I need to take my kids and their emotions serious regardless of their age. I need to take time to stay emotionally and spiritually connected to them. I need to take time to have one-on-one conversations where I ask them how they’re doing, how they’re feeling.

2) We need to be praying for our kids. I think we often have no idea how much is going on in those little minds. Their fears, concerns, worries, brokenness and stress are all very real.

Praying For College Students

I was shocked last week to hear that the second leading cause of death among college students is suicide. Furthermore, I read that as many as 50% of college students have thought about suicide with 15% of them seriously considering it.

That’s heartbreaking and after thinking about it I kind of get it. It’s a difficult time of life.  While I ultimately had a blast in college, thanks mostly to an incredible network of friends, I still remember wrestling with feeling…

lost

lonely

confused

displaced

anxious

inadequate

and increasingly stressed.

At Cross Point we are so blessed to draw a lot of college kids from surrounding schools.  Starting today I want to make a more concerted effort to love on them a little intentionally.

If you see a college kid at your church this Sunday why don’t you stop and give them a hug and tell them how much you appreciate them. Take time to ask them a few questions and see how their “really” doing.

If you have a kid in college, you are in college, or you know someone in college, leave the name and college below. We’ll spend some time praying for them today.

My Heart is Heavy

Phil Elder, a native of Texas and former resident of Fort Worth, died Monday, Sept. 8, 2008, in Nashville, Tenn.

Memorial service: 10 a.m. Friday at Gambrell Street Baptist Church. Officiating will be longtime family friend, Dr. James D. Williams. Visitation will follow in Maston Hall. Private interment service will be led by Dr. Clyde Glazner of Gambrell Street Baptist Church.
Phil was born July 9, 1966, in San Antonio. Phil, a 25-year resident of Nashville, Tenn., was in the landscape and outdoor service business for the past 19 years. He was a loving son, father and brother and will be greatly missed. (read rest of obituary HERE)

I didn’t know Phil, but my understanding is that he’s been to Cross Point the past three weeks. I also understand that Phil decided to take his own life earlier this week. I got a call from another pastor whose a friend of his parents. He told me that Phil hadn’t been to church in decades, but a friend of his invited him to Cross Point a few weeks ago. They found several of our CP programs along with the message notes.

I prayed today…

God help me to remember how important every single Sunday is at Cross Point. Help me to remember there are hundreds of people sitting in the seats that are hurting and lost. Confused and disappointed. Questioning and searching.

I mourned today…

I wish we could have done more. I feel that we probably did everything we could with the time God gave us with Phil, but I still wish we could have helped him understand how precious his life was. I wish he could have seen that God had a purpose for him. I wish he would have called me or one of our staff to go grab a cup of coffee. I wish we just had one more chance with him!

I cried today…

I cried as I thought about his parents, Lloyd and Sue Elder. Dr. Elder was the president of the Southern Baptist Sunday School Board (Lifeway) from 1983 – 1991. I can’t imagine the pain of losing your son in this way. As a father of three boys this thought just overwhelmed me.

So today will you pray. Pray for Phil’s family. Pray for the thousands and thousands of people we rub elbows with everyday who are fighting depression, drug and alcohol addictions, mental illnesses, hurt, anger and so many other demons that seem to run rampant in our broken world.