Song of Solomon 7:7-9

⁷ Your stature is like that of the palm,  and your breasts like clusters of fruit.

⁸ I said, “I will climb the palm tree;  I will take hold of its fruit.”
May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine,  the fragrance of your breath like apples,

⁹ and your mouth like the best wine.

May the wine go straight to my lover,
flowing gently over lips and teeth.

That’s not procreation. That’s just fun.

My friend Randy Elrod just released his book Sex, Lies & Religion yesterday. It will be one of the most controversial books of the year. Do yourself a favor and find freedom from the lies.  You can buy the book HERE.

We’ll be talking about how religion and culture have robbed us of guilt free sexual pleasure. We’ve accepted so many different sexual lies over the years that it’s created all kinds of misconceptions. And the reality is for every misconception you have about sex there is a corresponding consequence.

It’s going to be an amazing weekend, but here’s a video I shot with a little warning regarding this weekend’s content.

Message Warning from Pete Wilson on Vimeo.

I guess it would be an understatement to say men tend to think about sex more than women. But, I also think it’s an overstatement to say it’s all men think about.

My friend, Anne Jackson wrote a post on her blog last week entitled “My Thoughts On Boobies” which got quite a bit of discussion going around the blogosphere. I must admit that I have been thinking about it a lot since last week (the post, not boobies).

Anne’s challenge was an important one. She was simply saying women should be mindful of what they wear knowing that men are so visually stimulated. My question is this: What responsibility do the men own in all of this? Surely guys we can’t play the “We just can’t help it.” card or the “That’s the way God designed us.” card. Or my favorite lame excuse, “You can look at the menu, you just can’t order.”

So here are my thoughts to get us started. I believe it is true…

1) A man will always notice an attractive woman.

2) After noticing, a man has a choice. He can either choose to continue to “notice” the attractive woman which will lead to fantasy or he can choose to avert his mind and his eyes to something else (often referred to as bouncing).

So what do you guys think? Is this something that men and women both need to own?

chime in,

Pete