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Monitoring Modesty

August 20, 2010 in Leadership, Spiritual Growth with 97 Comments

I stumbled upon an interesting survey the other day called The Modesty Survey. The website describes it as “an exciting, anonymous discussion between Christian guys and girls who care about modesty.”

Apparently hundreds of Christian girls contributed to the 148-question survey and over 1,600 Christian guys submitted 150,000+ answers, including 25,000 text responses.

Turns out you ladies aren’t allowed to wear miniskirts or halter-tops, but you can get away with decorative stitching on your pockets.

I think I get the point of this… but I do have one bone to pick. It seems a bit one sided. It communicates that modesty is something which pertains to only girls and immodesty is something that guys get to define. It almost seems to allow men to blame their “lustful minds” on women and their “immodest” dress instead of challenging them to “renew their mind.”

I may totally regret opening this can of worms but I think this is an important conversation.

What responsibility do you think women have when it comes to what they wear? Is it possible for us to get to legalistic about this?

Is This All Men Think About?

May 15, 2008 in God, Leadership, My Family, Religion with 91 Comments

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I guess it would be an understatement to say men tend to think about sex more than women. But, I also think it’s an overstatement to say it’s all men think about.

My friend, Anne Jackson wrote a post on her blog last week entitled “My Thoughts On Boobies” which got quite a bit of discussion going around the blogosphere. I must admit that I have been thinking about it a lot since last week (the post, not boobies).

Anne’s challenge was an important one. She was simply saying women should be mindful of what they wear knowing that men are so visually stimulated. My question is this: What responsibility do the men own in all of this? Surely guys we can’t play the “We just can’t help it.” card or the “That’s the way God designed us.” card. Or my favorite lame excuse, “You can look at the menu, you just can’t order.”

So here are my thoughts to get us started. I believe it is true…

1) A man will always notice an attractive woman.

2) After noticing, a man has a choice. He can either choose to continue to “notice” the attractive woman which will lead to fantasy or he can choose to avert his mind and his eyes to something else (often referred to as bouncing).

So what do you guys think? Is this something that men and women both need to own?

chime in,

Pete