Developing a intimate relationship with each one of my boys is something I work really hard at. I’m increasingly learning that each one of them is so unique. I’ve noticed that with each one of them there seems to be an environment where they are more apt to be open to significant conversations. I call this place our “thing.” It’s the activity or environment that makes your child feel loved,  invested in and connected to you.

With Gage, my middle son, right now it’s all about legos. If I’m playing legos with him he’ll talk to me for hours. With Jett, my oldest son, it’s all about hunting. We went hunting together for the first time last week. We created some unforgettable moments in the deer stand and he got his first deer!

Brewer is just five, but right now if I’ll let him play with my iPad he’ll sit in my lap for hours showing me how amazing his video game skills are.

The “thing” with each of them will change over time. What must not change is my pursuit.

What’s your “thing” with your kids these days? Do you remember what it was with your parents growing up?