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Are Cell Phones Bad For Parenting?

I read THIS article in Time Magazine last night and it really got me thinking. Dominique Browning wrote,

“There was something to be said for the old-fashioned landline, with a handset so bulky, you had to tuck it between your neck and shoulder to get your hands free. They didn’t — couldn’t — go everywhere with us. Now we’re tethered to our mobiles — addicted, even. They’ve become handy tools for avoidance, and it’s our children who are getting the bad end of the deal.

All around me, I see parents with their babies and toddlers and young kids — but not with them. The grownups are on the phone. The dad pushing his son on the swing set while hands-free on his mobile isn’t really with his child. The mom pushing her baby in a pram while she’s yakking on the phone isn’t really with her child.

I’ve learned it’s possible to be present with your family and not really be PRESENT with your family.

One of the best decisions I’ve made in the past two years was taking email off my phone. I’ve never missed it once and while I believe it’s made me a more attentive husband and father it hasn’t once made me a less effective pastor.

Listen, I’m not trying to make anyone guilty, but I do think we need to take the time to think about how technology is impacting our families. Just read these final words of this article. Wow!!!!

Is being a parent boring? Sometimes. Lots of times. And guess what. Those boring moments are what you will miss the most once your children are grown. Carpool is when you should be hanging on every word. Walks are when the world unfolds at a child’s feet, in the safety of your company. The parent is the genius who gives names to things and encourages a child’s attention to detail on the path. The tiny accretion of daily routines is dull and divine. Of course there’s always plenty of time for a phone call, or 10 of them. Children are always slowly walking, slowly eating, slowly looking, slowly reading, slowly going nowhere, until suddenly they’re gone.

And giving the kids their own phones in the name of fair play doesn’t cut it. That’s happening all too often; families are together, but each person is in her own bubble of technology. Some of us worry about radiation and the developing brain. But we should be worried about disconnectedness and the developing mind.

Any thoughts?

My Halloween Favorites

We had an absolute blast yesterday. I thought I would post a few of my favorite pictures from the day. Enjoy…

Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star

One of my favorite things about being a pastor is helping people discover their gifts, abilities and purpose. I love watching people find their sweet spot in life.

Likewise it’s been fun as a dad to watch my boys as they grow up and develop their unique giftedness. I pray almost every day that God will help me encourage them in such a way as to use their gifts to bless the people around them.

Our youngest, Brewer, is full of energy, determination, and focus. Lately, he’s been singing a lot. A whole lot. I thought I would give you a sample. Jury is still out on whether or not this is going to be a gift of his or not. I think his oldest brother might have given him a few lessons.

[vimeo http://www.vimeo.com/1808063]

Here’s the “all-skate” question. What do you think your primary gift or ability is? How are you using it?

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Is Your Trust-Meter Broken?

We’ve been in this series at Cross Point entitled Baggage. We’ve been talking about the emotional baggage we all carry from relationship to relationship. This baggage keeps us from loving in the way we’ve been called and created to love.

Yesterday we talked about the baggage of betrayal and abandonment.

We all have a trust-meter. Every time you interact with another person your trust-meter goes up or down based on a set of factors that would include such things as the person’s truth-telling record, their commitment keeping pattern, their confidentiality, their consistency in character, etc.

All of this happens subconsciously. So when you have a friend that gossips about another one of your friends or doesn’t show when they say they’ll show or you catch them in a lie, your trust-meter goes down.

When your trust-meter goes down the natural tendency is to begin to withdraw. And generally the further we withdraw the more suspicious we become. This almost always either stunts or at least redefines the relationship.

Now some of you need to realize your trust-meter is broken. It’s giving you false readings. Because of the baggage from your past your trust-meter is all jacked up.

So what do you do? The wise person when confronted with a relationship where the trust meter is headed south will engage instead of withdraw. You need to engage in that relationship and sit down and talk about the issues. Tell them about the doubts creeping into your mind and heart. Find out if there is actually betrayal going on or if you’re getting false readings.

So tell me. Do you have problem trusting other people? Do you think your trust meter gives you false readings from time to time? What are you doing about it?

What do you think?

As most of you know our dog Tucker passed away about a month ago. Ever since the boys have been begging for a new puppy. Who knows, maybe Santa will bring one.

I saw this video on my good friend Randy’s blog. I think I would be ready to get a puppy if I had this guy’s touch.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jCnAjel02lM&hl=en&fs=1]

So I need your suggestions. If you were getting a dog what kind of dog would you get?

Family Fun Night

My wonderful wife, Brandi, works really hard to keep things fun and interesting at home. We both believe that we have to be very creative to make family time fun, engaging, and something our boys look forward to. If we’re not careful we can all end up in separate parts of the house doing our own things or stuck together in the family room just watching t.v. and not interacting.

Once a week Brandi plans a “family fun night” where we have dinner and games built around a theme. Last night was “American Gladiators” night, so sit back and enjoy…

[vimeo http://www.vimeo.com/1749664]

What are you doing these days to keep your family from getting stuck in a routine?

*For more great family fun night ideas jump over and visit Heather!

The Root of Bitterness

I hate bermuda grass. I hate it with a passion. I’ve tried everything to get the stuff out of my yard, but to no avail, it continues to spread.

Bermuda grass roots run far and wide and deep. I read the other day they can go as deep as six feet! Leave this stuff unchecked and it will ruin everything important to your lawn. It will consume your flowers, choke out the good grass, and literally take over.

Hebrews 12:15 “Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”

It’s so easy for bitterness to take root isn’t it?

  • It might have happened in your first marriage
  • Maybe you feel like your parents had a favorite
  • A business deal might have gone wrong.
  • A friend purposefully tried to hurt you

The list could go on and on.

Yesterday in the Baggage series we talked about the important work of forgiveness. We said forgiveness is never easy or cheap. It will always cost you something.  And while forgiveness does not mean condoning or excusing, it does mean you let go of your right to hurt them back.

You need to know that bitterness contaminates everything. It spreads far and wide and deep. Bitterness doesn’t isolate to the source of bitterness, but rather spreads to all of your relationships. Left unchecked it will ruin everything important to you. It will consume your thoughts, choke out your love and literally take over your life.

How have you dealt with the roots of bitterness in your heart?

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