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A Chilling Reality

Last night I read an absolutely heartbreaking article. The article released online yesterday by Time Magazine said…

Almost 40% of kids attempting suicide make their first try in middle or even elementary school, according to research that suggests that kids who think they want to kill themselves are considering it long before previously assumed.

About 1 in 9 children have attempted suicide before their high school graduation, but learning that they’re making plans as early as elementary school is especially chilling.

In a study published in the November issue of the Journal of Adolescent Health, researchers at the University of Washington surveyed 883 young adults ages 18 or 19 about previous suicide attempts and learned that 78 — close to 9% — had tried to commit suicide.

Suicide attempt rates rose steeply at age 12 — around sixth grade — and peaked two to three years later. The 39 teens who said they had tried to commit suicide multiple times reported first attempting when they were as young as 9, which is the average age of a third-grader. Teens who said they had tried just once were more likely to have attempted suicide later, in high school.

Being the father of three young boys I hardly have words to respond to this article.

I’m not going to attempt to explain why this is happening. Is it possible that kids have felt this way this early throughout history and we’re just now discover it? Sure. Is it possible we live in world where our kids are growing up faster than ever and they simply can’t handle the pressure being put on them? Sure.

What I do know is this:

1) As a parent I need to take my kids and their emotions serious regardless of their age. I need to take time to stay emotionally and spiritually connected to them. I need to take time to have one-on-one conversations where I ask them how they’re doing, how they’re feeling.

2) We need to be praying for our kids. I think we often have no idea how much is going on in those little minds. Their fears, concerns, worries, brokenness and stress are all very real.

So Random

I sat down to write a blog this morning and realized I’ve got nothing. Nothing at all. This often happens to me after a few days off. I’ve just got a bunch of random things that are bouncing around in my head. So today I give you my random thoughts. Good luck following along.

1) Trying to carve some time out for a relationship I’ve been forming with an unchurched friend. He reached out to me over Thanksgiving and I realize I need some more time with him as God is opening some doors there. So excited to see what happens in his life next.

2) Following the Advent Scripture reading plan with the family. I haven’t been as intentional about pouring into my family spiritually as I should. Time to step it up! Family advent devotionals are a great way to help your family grow spiritually during this season.

3) Just realized my 15 year wedding anniversary is only two weeks away. Might need some help planning this one. Hint, hint. 15 years? Really? You know we got married as teenagers right?

4) In the process of sending out a few galley copies of my next book, “Empty Promises,” to several friends who I’m seeking endorsements from. It’s always nerve racking having friends read through something I’ve been privately working on for so long.

5) Spending a lot of time this week working on our Christmas series at Cross Point entitled “Shine On.” This Sunday is also our kickoff to 12 Days of Serving.   Have I mentioned how much I LOVE this time of year? So exciting.

6) I’ve been on a new “healthy eating plan,” 37 years of eating anything in front of me is finally catching up. I’m two weeks in and I’ve honestly never been so obsessed with food in my life. It’s all I think about now. I’m choking the salads down, avoiding pizza and french fries (my personal favs) and trying to slow down my massive carb intake.

7) Spent last night laying in bed thinking about starting a new business. I’ve officially decided I want to start a Christmas tree farm. Laid out the business plan to my boys this morning and they’re all in!! Pretty sure I’m going to grow the Douglas-Fir. Won’t have any trees ready for 5 years so I better get started. If by any chance you own a Christmas tree farm, have ever worked at a Christmas tree farm or know anything about Christmas tree farms I could really use your advice. :)

8) Took my son deer hunting. I know nothing about deer hunting. The deer in Humphreys County have never been more safe.

 

Deal of the Day (and no lines)

Tiffany ep cover

In honor of Black Friday I thought it would be fitting today to let you know about a great deal. My friend Tiffany Thurston just released her second EP, a snapshot of what you can expect from her full-length album to be released in 2012, and I’m so excited for you guys to check it out. In addition to touring throughout the year with Women of Faith and Natalie Grant, Tiffany is one of the amazing worship leaders at Cross Point and we’re so lucky to know her.

Tiffany’s spirit for Christ is evident in everything she does and there’s no mistaking what she seeks in this life; for Jesus’ name to be made bigger and brighter. Tiffany is a super talented songwriter and artist originally from Hawaii and I highly encourage you today to get in on this treat. Snag copies for yourself, friends and loved ones this Christmas. At $2.97 you really can’t beat it. :)

Today only, I’m giving away 5 free digital copies along with, thanks to Tiffany’s generosity,  5 free Hello Somebody watches tying into the theme of one of her tunes called “Wake Up.”

If you’re not familiar with Hello Somebody, they’re a great organization literally changing hundreds of lives every day through their mission to feed and educate children in order to break the cycle of hunger and poverty within their generation. When you purchase a Hello Somebody product you invest directly into the lives of these children and this mission. They also have a couple of way cool Black Friday package deals you can check out here.

If you’d like to be included in the drawing leave your name and where you’re from in the comments and let us know if you braved the Black Friday crowds or decided to stay away from the madness!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING FROM THE WILSONS

Our family has a ton of things to be thankful for this year and you guys are towards the top of the list.

I know many of you I’ve never had the opportunity to actually meet in person and we don’t get to do life together, but I’m so incredibly thankful God has allowed our paths to cross right here.

Thanks for reading this blog on a regular basis and being a part of our family.

We love you guys.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Porn Week

So apparently this week is Pornography Awareness Week. I know this because I stumbled across an article last night by Dr. Marty Klein a sex therapist who believes we should use this week not to warn of the dangers of pornography but to actually celebrate it.

He offered 14 different ways you can observe the week. Here’s a few of his outlandish suggestions. My comments are in parenthesis.

1)  If you use porn, talk about it with your partner. (I actually agree. However, something tells me this conversation is not going to end with the two of you cuddling on the couch.)

2) Thank the clerk in your local convenience store for carrying porn magazines or DVDs. (Might as well buy them some flowers and chocolate while you’re at it.)

3)  Write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper explaining that most people who use porn have no problem with it. (Please, please, please do this. I can’t wait to see how you back this one up. Oh, and make sure you send a head shot and email address with the letter.)

4)  Invite your partner to share her/his concerns about porn with you. (Ummmmm, I’m pretty sure they won’t need your invitation. If you follow suggestion 1 I got a feeling you can skip this step)

5) Use some. Guilt-free. (Good luck. While the last thing we need is more people walking around under a cloud of guilt the reality is sexual intimacy was not designed to be exercised in this way and it will almost always lead to guilt, a lack of intimacy and a host of other issues in your life.)

Dr. Klein may want to pretend as if this isn’t a major issue but I have to disagree.  I’ve met with countless individuals and couples over the years whose lives and relationships have been severely impacted by pornography.

* 42 percent of surveyed adults indicated that their partner’s use of pornography made them feel insecure.
Marriage Related Research, Mark A. Yarhouse, Psy.D. Christian Counseling Today, 2004 Vol. 12 No. 1.

* 41 percent of surveyed adults admitted they felt less attractive due to their partner’s pornography use.
Marriage Related Research, Mark A. Yarhouse, Psy.D. Christian Counseling Today, 2004 Vol. 12 No. 1.

* 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home.
Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003.

I’m not here to try to pile on the guilt. Lord knows if you’re addicted to pornography you don’t need anymore guilt.

I just want to remind you of the truth which is porn is a powerful cycle of addiction that can and will destroy your ability to enjoy intimacy with your partner in the way God intended.

I want to remind you that you don’t have to continue to allow your mind and soul to be poisoned by this stuff. You can find freedom from the cycle of guilt and shame you’re caught in!

One of the wisest things I’ve ever done is installed Covenant Eyes on my computer and established a system for accountability in this area of my life and I want to encourage you to do the same. If you have computers in your home and or work which don’t have some kind of filter on them I think you’re just asking for trouble.

Your Thoughts?

I LOVE Halloween

I love Halloween. Can I say that? Can I admit that? I do. Not in the way I love Christmas or Easter but I do love it.

Usually this time of year there are all kinds of debates about “should Christians celebrate Halloween?”  As soon as I twittered something last night about heading out with my kids I immediately started getting the “you celebrate Halloween?” tweets back.

One tweet said,  “This is an admonition pagan culture -Deuteronomy 18: 9-14 – do u really celebrate this day?”

Please note, I believe this is a personal decision. If you and your family don’t celebrate Halloween, then I totally respect that decision.

Our kids dress up, we carve a pumpkin and take ALL the candy we possibly can from our neighbors. You could say we celebrate Halloween but I think we celebrate our kids, friends and neighbors.

1) My kids. My kids love to dress up. Jett was Satan, Gage, an evil spirit, and Brewer, the angel of death. Just kidding!! They were fired up all weekend about designing their pumpkins and running around the neighborhood. We had a blast.

2) My friends. We usually have two other couples and their kids come over and enjoy the evening with us. We’ve actually gone trick-or-treating with one couple for 11 years in a row. It’s kind of become our little tradition.

3) My neighbors. This is an awesome chance for me to build a bridge with my non-Christian, non-church going neighbors (In fact I met a lady last night who just moved to Nashville and visited Cross Point last week). Think of it as Tuesday night visitation, only this time they’re coming to you. Many will drop by the house and we’ll get a chance to talk about all kinds of things that might serve as a bridge to future conversations and future opportunities to build relationships . I’m probably not going to drop a “Christian tract” in their kid’s bag, but I do want to drop a little sincere Christian love their way.

So if you did a little trick or treating last night, you might end up with a cavity, but I don’t think you’re going to hell.

I know I’m probably opening a can of worms but what do you think about Halloween?  Did you have fun last night?

Memories

There are a lot of things I screw up as a dad but the one things I want to get right is creating unforgettable memories.

The boys were on fall break the first few days of this week so we took a long weekend and headed out to the wild outdoors for a few days of camping. Camping included, but was not limited to…

-Competitive games of Rummikub.

-Skeet shooting (Gage hit his first one)

-Hiking

-Catching some of the biggest fish minnows you’ve ever seen.

-The worst homemade pizza over a fire we’ve ever tasted.

I don’t know about you but when I think back to my favorite childhood memories they were defined by experiences I had, rather than by things I acquired.

I know my boys will never look back on their time in our house and think, “Wow, my Dad was the perfect Dad.” But I do hope they look back and know that their parents tried really hard to create meaningful experiences for them that will be forever locked into their memories as a reminder of just how much I love them.

When you think back to your childhood what’s a memory that comes to your mind?

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