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Too Far

I thought I’d heard it all, but this is so over the top, it left me standing there shocked.

You would probably have to be living under a rock to not have heard about the  San Francisco mother who’s been injecting her 8 year-old daughter, Britney, with Botox to minimize her “wrinkles.”

Yes, you read it right – 8 years old! And why? In the cut-throat world of children’s beauty pageants, the Botox ridding her “wrinkles” gives her a competitive edge.

The mom’s defense was, ‘everyone’s doing it.’   Apparently it’s a pageant secret used by many pageant moms.

Why do we want our little kids to appear and perform like  grown-ups?

We push them to walk by age 1.

We encourage them to read by 5.

We desire they excel at a sport by age 9.

We calculate grade point averages and start talking about scholarships by 6th grade.

We want them to not only master the English language but learn a few others before they graduate.

In my opinion, decisions such as these (and there are many more) are a result of society taking the innocence out of childhood.

It scares me to think that many of today’s children are growing up at 7 or 8 or 9 with the idea they have to look a certain way or wear certain clothes to fit in.

It breaks my heart because I don’t think as a society we’re going to stop pushing our kids anytime soon.

But I’m not going to stop reminding myself of the dangers — and you shouldn’t either.

Am I alone here?

A Journey Marked By His Grace

 

Growing up I had a Sunday School teacher that was quite fond of reminding us that we were all a work in progress. While I can’t absolutely prove it I’m pretty sure she had a song that went a long with this concept.

I really wish spiritual transformation wasn’t such a process. I’m tired of making the same mistakes over and over. I’m done with being lured in by the same temptations.

The other day my oldest son, Jett, chose to make a few decisions that were less than smart. He had once again been caught directly, and in my opinion, purposefully disobeying something we had engaged in lengthy conversations about.

I was right to be upset and disappointed in his decisions, but my reaction was equally as devastating. I responded in anger saying things to him in a tone and spirit that were quite hurtful. Plain and simple I had lost my temper with him.

About 15 minutes later I sat there on the edge of his bed. With his face buried in his pillow crying, I asked him to forgive me for the way I had responded to him.

I couldn’t help but feel defeated. This wasn’t the first time I’ve had to ask him to forgive me for losing my temper with him. Shouldn’t this be something I have control over by now? Shouldn’t I be mature enough to control my emotions? Why do I have to continue to hurt the people around me that I care so much about with my sin?

I’m in no way making excuses for my behavior but, I’m learning that you can’t microwave spiritual formation. We want the fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and faithfulness to be evident tomorrow. But I think there is a reason that Jesus likens our spiritual growth to trees (Jesus said, ‘I am the vine and you are the branches’). Because it’s a process and sometimes a slow one.

But this is the incredible beauty that God has called us to. It’s not a flawless process but a journey marked by His grace. It’s not a stale existence characterized by a mindless existence simply waiting for eternity. Not even close. We’ve been invited to connect with God each and every day as He brings about this incredible transforming process in our lives right in the midst of this beautifully broken world.

Awesomeness

My oldest son, Jett (you may remember him from THIS self-directed video), turned 10 yesterday.

Hard to believe I have a son who’s in double digits now.

This past Sunday he made an amazing basketball shot that our neighbor caught on camera. He asked if I would blog it so everyone could see how awesome he is.

I’ve used him to get many laughs over the years, so I guess I should show you some of his awesomeness as well. He’s a “baller.”

And since I’ve used my platform to brag on my son today I’m going to open it up for all. It’s national brag on your kid day, so let’s hear it.

What’s one thing your kids have done in the past few months you’re really proud of?


 

My Little “Baller” from Pete Wilson on Vimeo.

 

 

The Elephant In The Pew

Congratulations we have our winners!!

I’m super excited about the release of my friend Scott Williams’ book,  Church Diversity.

Scott’s been a good friend over the years and has offered me support and advice in so many different areas. I was with him last week in Orlando and just reminded of how powerfully God is working through his life. I’m super proud of him and this first book where he tackles one of the biggest issues facing the church today.

If 11:00 on Sunday mornings is the most segregated hour of the week as of today, Scott’s book will most certainly get conversations started and God’s people fired up and moving in the right direction to where tomorrow, that doesn’t have to be true. Do yourself and your church a favor and pick up a copy today.

Or if you’re lucky, you may be one of the 5 I randomly select to win one in the next 24 hours. Just leave a comment and your automatically entered.

Why We Had Kids (Part 11)

All Boy

I love helping raise three boys. There’s never a dull moment.

There’s no such thing as a stick. It’s a dangerous sword that can destroy the evil enemies.

There’s no such thing as a box. It’s a fort waiting to be built.

There’s no such thing as a ceiling fan. It’s a launcher for army men, stuffed animals, and anything else you can throw up there.

And then there’s this picture. Sunday night Jess, one of our favorite babysitters, took this picture of Brewer on the slip n’ slide.

It’s not just a slip n’ slide. It’s an opportunity to get a little speed and launch yourself into the upper stratosphere while also extending the sledding season well into the Spring.

Got any good little boy stories?

What We Need From Our Pastor

Hey guys. I asked Stephen Brewster, my good friend and Cross Point’s Creative Arts Pastor to post today while I’m on the Creative Life Cruise working on my tan. Just kidding. Hit it Stephen..

It’s an honor to guest blog here at Without Wax today. I met Pete through our blogs several years ago and we became blog friends never dreaming the day would come that we would have the chance to do ministry and life together. Being such a fan of Without Wax, it is crazy to be writing to the community that huddles around this site everyday. Pete asked me to talk a little bit about what Creative Teams need from their Pastors.

Here are 5 things that I believe every creative team needs from their pastor:

1. Permission to fail. No one enjoys failure, but the reality is if we want amazing and really creative experiences there is a very solid chance that at times we are going to fail. Real art is not safe. Safe stuff is created in the middle, but really amazing stuff, the stuff people remember and can’t ignore is created on the edges. Sometimes when we are creating on these edges, we may fall in the ditch. Knowing that we are allowed to fail from time to time creates the safety to really experiment. That does not give creative teams permission to be lazy, but really places a healthy pressure on us as creative teams to create unforgettable vehicles for the amazing content that pastors are communicating. We have the greatest story of all time to tell, we should utilize the greatest vehicles for that story.

2. Communication. Never be afraid to communicate what you like and what you dislike. Be clear and very candid. Being aware of expectations helps to create clarity for what should and should not be created inside your organization. Another key in communication is the ability to articulate where you are headed with your content. Give as much info as you can, as early as you can, so that the creative team can dig in and find the best tools to help share the amazing content God is placing on your heart. When a team has a week to execute your vision they will not create as great of an experience as they would if they had a month.

Also key in healthy communication is to celebrate victories publicly and criticize in private. Creative teams by nature are going to be emotional and get attached to their creations. Besides you as a communicator, no other department in your church leaves as much personal DNA on a weekend as your creative team. Criticism is healthy and necessary, but protect your team and it will build an amazing amount of equity between both parties. Communication will make or break your creative process.

3. Trust. We have to trust each other. There is a song that we have in our rotation right now that is not Pete’s favorite. I love the fact that he trusts us to continue to try to work the song and he trusts that we have a purpose behind why we are trying to make the song work. Pete also trusts that if the song does not work, we are going to pull it and not risk negatively impacting the momentum that God is building around Cross Point. Trust goes beyond music. It is also vital to external communication, creation of vehicles for content, and the hustle both parties are putting into what is being created. Trust is also necessary in the creative meetings. In our meetings we need to make sure the playing field is level and everyone is trusting, not focusing on titles or position. If that trust is not there people will be afraid to communicate their true feelings about ideas, concepts, and impact.

4. Inclusion. Pete is great at this. Keep creative arts included in the conversation. Knowing what is going on and eliminating surprises as much as possible helps everyone plan, be prepared, and create our best stuff.

5. Space to create. As a Pastor and a boss, be as involved as you can be in the process, but once you feel you have contributed to the process, allow the team to create. If you walk by the creative suite and wonder why half the team is laying on the floor with Hillsong music playing and the other half of the team is playing ping pong, understand that may be part of their process. When expectations are set and clear, allow the process to be worked out in the methods that allow creative teams to be their most creative. What works for one person may not work best for the next.

Pastors, what are some of the things that you need from your creative teams?

Creative team members, what have I missed on this list?

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