WithoutWax.tv by Pete Wilson | Archive | September, 2011
Archive - September, 2011

Honestly

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A few weeks ago, while I was out in California I had the honor of meeting an amazing guy named Johnnie Moore and I’m super excited to introduce you to him today. He’s a speaker, professor, author, and the vice president of one of the biggest universities in the world with 72,000 students, Liberty University.

At 18 years old Johnnie was singled out as a freshman at Liberty and placed in the leadership role of speaking weekly to a group of 150 students, which has now grown to thousands.

Now at only 28 he’s using his influence to speak out about an extremely important issue facing the church today through his book titled, Honestly. It just released a couple weeks ago and has been highly anticipated and endorsed by some of the highest level leaders in our culture and I’m thrilled to be able to tell you guys about it. I encourage you to pick up a copy and see what all the buzz is about.

God has blessed each of us with a certain degree of influence. I don’t think it’s something that can be achieved or produced, but rather a god-given gift we need to cultivate in order to effectively reach and impact those God puts in our path. Recognizing and openly confessing our downfalls as the church is one of the first steps in cultivating the influence God has blessed us with.

Getting honest can be scary. It places us in a vulnerable position that feels unsafe and out of our control. But the consequences of concealment are far greater than the consequences of confession and Johnnie beautifully articulates the importance of us as leaders getting real about who we are as the church, and how we can really live out what we say we believe.

I’ll be giving away 5 copies of Honestly today. If you’d like to be included in the drawing just leave your name in the comments and we’ll randomly pick 5 winners in the next 24 hours.

 

Remembering 9/11

I don’t think any of us will ever forget where we were on 9/11. I’ll never forget sitting in the conference room at Bellevue Community Church watching the events unfold with friends like Justin Davis.

I remember being horrified, saddened and absolutely scared to death.

I’ll never forget going home and holding my then 6 month-old son, Jett. His innocence was a riveting contrast to what I had experienced that day.  I rocked him and just cried. As a new dad I was so worried about how I would protect him from such evil.

Like millions I’ve spent a lot of time this weekend remembering that unforgettable day. For hours on Saturday afternoon I sat down with Jett, who’s now 10, explaining to him (as I fought back tears) the events and emotions of that day. He had tons of questions, many of which I was no better equipped to answer ten years later,  but I did my best.

I explained to him that 9/11 is a reminder that none of us get to choose how we die, but we do get to choose how we live.

Choose well.

How did you remember 9/11 this weekend?

My Biggest Mistake In Ministry

Probably the most asked question I get in interviews and by pastors I’m mentoring is, “If you could go back and change anything in your ministry, what would you change?”

Usually I’m thinking, You don’t have enough time for me to actually answer that question. I’d change tons of things.

However, at the very top of the list would be my driving desire to be “loved” at all costs.

I have a lot of friends in ministry that are addicted to this pride-swelling choice as well.

For most of my life and certainly all of my ministry, I’ve been addicted to pleasing everyone. It didn’t matter if it cost me my personality, my family, or even at times, my vow to speak truth. I just wanted to be “loved.”

  • I would ignore the sincere compliments of others to be obsessed with the few critics.
  • I would abandon my boundaries and go above and beyond to “help” someone while ignoring my family.
  • I would put off the tough leadership decisions trying to keep all sides content.

Why? Simple. I wanted to be “loved.”

But let me tell you something. Leading with a desire to be loved is dangerous. Parenting with a desire to be loved can be destructive. And if you spend your life trying to be loved instead of being loving, it’s going to lead you to all kinds of unhealthy extremes.

Part of learning humility for me is to understand I simply can’t please everyone. Not everyone is going to like me, love me, or think I’m great. They’re just not.

I feel like I’m growing in this area. I’m learning the freedom that comes along with seeking to love, instead of always desiring to be loved.  The first leads to meaning and significance while the latter  is an emotional black hole that can never be filled.

I pray you will learn to live in the Kingdom and be freed from the sheer stupidity and vanity of going through life trying to make sure other people think the right things about you.  If you depend on other people loving everything you say or do, you will end up doing and saying nothing. I pray you’ll receive the fact that you are loved in the eyes of God in such a way that you can then go out to lead and live, seeking to truly love the people around you.

Enough about me. Does anyone else struggle with this?

The Best 99¢ You’ll Spend Today

I know I’ve introduced you guys to a lot of new books but I’ve just stumbled on a lot of good ones lately. Today I want to tell you about a good friend of mine and his book that just released.

Ken Moody has been a friend of mine and Cross Point since we started. He’s currently serving his second term as an elder and he’s truly helped shape parts of our culture over the years. He’s written a great novel entitled Ordained Irreverence.

One of my favorite people ever, Tom Tyndall, who retired from Cross Point a while back had this to say about the book:

Yes, Moody tells a delightful laugh-out-loud read that draws you in if only to see what happens next to the characters! Moody’s sobering yet very wryly written upbeat look at pastoral ministry should be required reading for pastors. Knowing Moody personally, he’s not mean-spirited nor hokey, yet he reveals personal stories, helpful insights, even tough questions that every pastor or church worker faces sooner or later. Moody also cleverly weaves romance, church stunts, staff dynamics and dysfunctional meetings in a hopeful way that features a compelling cast of true church “characters.” While, like this pastor-reviewer, you may still wonder at what “ordination” means, you’ll appreciate those who genuinely want to make a difference in lives through finding their usefulness to God in “church work.”

I asked Ken to share a few more thoughts about his new book and the process by which he wrote it.

1. What made you want to write this book?

Having spent a large portion of my adult life as a church staff member I wanted to canonize some of the more humorous episodes from my “days of the cloth.” I chose to make it a novel so I could, using artistic license, vamp off the real stories making them a bit more colorful. I also reasoned that by taking the fiction route I could greatly decrease the chance of a disgruntled church member waiting for me at my car with hatchet in hand.

2. I know you’ve spent a lot of time on church staff. Is the book in any way based on real life characters or experiences from your past?

I like saying that my book was “inspired” by my own personal experiences, those of my friends in ministry, and all of the wonderful and oft-time quirky people we ministered to. Real life is always funnier than anything we can contrive, and life is funniest when it catches us off guard, surprises us, or breaks us out of our ordinary routines. This seems to happen a lot in church work.

3. There are a lot of aspiring authors who read the blog. Tell us a little bit about your writing process. Any tips for those of us wanting to improve our art of writing?

Even though I walk, talk, and eat at a rapid pace, when it comes to writing I slow it way down. I like to savor the words and phrases, letting them wash around in my mind, patiently waiting for the nuances and the subtleties to emerge

Writing for me always starts with a great idea. Not just the idea for your whole book, but the idea for each scene, each interchange between characters. Once you have a firm grasp of the idea, then it’s easier to let the narrative and the dialogue write themselves. Then go back to each word and sentence and ask:

How can I make this stronger?

Is there a better word or phrase I could use?

Oh yeah, it’s a pain, but it’s also a lot of fun.

Writing, for me is like jogging, it’s always hard work and I have to push myself to do it. Yet when the run is over I’m glad I did it.

So thanks for joining us Ken and thanks for writing such a fun book. And I want add that you guys should do yourself a huge favor, forget about the 99 cent fries and order Ordained Irreverence by CLICKING  HERE if you want to start reading the book right now.

And just for fun. What’s one other thing you could purchase for 99¢ today?

Favorite Nicknames

Isn’t it funny how we give people nicknames? In elementary school is was ‘PJ’, in high school I was ‘Wilson’ and then in college I became ’31 Flavors’ (it’s a long story). These days some people call me “PP” for Pastor Pete ( Trust me, I’ve been called worse).

I love nicknames. If you’re a close friend of mine I’ve probably given you a nickname (whether you realize it or not). I even have nicknames for people at church or the gym that I don’t even know. I’m not sure why I think they’re so fun or why I give them to people, but I do.

Here are the nicknames I have for my family.

Brandi is Willis

Jett is J-man

Gage is Pooh Bear

Brewer is Boo Boo

So do you have a nickname? Let’s hear it. Come on, stop lurking and tell us. We promise we won’t make fun of you. :)

If you’re not feeling very creative and need a little help you could always visit nicknames.com where they will help you develop a vast array of nicknames for you and your friends.

Top 5 Ways To Not Be A Jerk Online

Last night I was with my friend, Jon Acuff.  The guy truly amazes me. I don’t know anyone who can be as consistently funny online and make fun of so many people (including me) without being a jerk. It’s a true gift.

He recently wrote an article for Relevant Magazine which he’s uniquely qualified to write entitled “How To Not Be a Jerk Online.”  Here’s a snippet of his points, but you should CLICK HERE and read the entire article.

1. Don’t publicly announce you’re unfollowing someone on Twitter.

This is the middle finger of Twitter. The person who you are unfollowing gets punched in the face and you look far more spiteful than you really intend.

2. Don’t argue with someone anonymously.

I once heard a pastor say that “hate mail that’s signed by nobody is worth nothing.” He’s right. If you’ve got a strong opinion about something someone else did or said or wrote online, don’t be a coward.

3. Don’t be someone else online.

We’ll tweet things we’d never say to someone’s face. We’ll comment on Facebook statuses in ways we’d never do in “real life.” We’ll push buttons and pick fights on comment threads and message boards. We’ll gossip and tear down people as if maybe “Love your neighbor” actually says, “Love your neighbor, except if you’re online.”

4. Don’t Jesus Juke

What’s that? A Jesus Juke is an idea I came up with to describe the moment when you’re having a normal conversation and someone jukes in some Jesus out of nowhere. For example, I once tweeted that I was at the Conan O’Brien live tour and it was sold out. Someone responded, “If we held a concert for Jesus and gave away free tickets, no one would come.” Sad trumpet, whaaa, waaaa. A Jesus Juke is the Christian version of the Debbie Downer moment.

5. Don’t mock people.

You know what no one has ever said in the history of mankind? “Remember that time you viciously mocked and made fun of other Christians? That helped me start a lifelong relationship with Christ. Thank you for using the spiritual gift of mockery in the service of the Kingdom.”

I thought Jon did a great job with the five he listed. Obviously there are a lot of jerks (maybe all of us at one time or another) online these days. Hoping this list helps all of us grow up a bit in our online interactions.

Which one of these five are you most tempted to engage in?

Is there one you would add to the list?

The Heart of the Story

Thanks so much for your participation, our winners have been selected!!

Hope you guys are getting ready for a great Labor Day weekend. Even though it’s going to be around 100 degrees we’re going to brave the elements and go camping. If we don’t sweat to death, I think we just might have a blast.

Going into this weekend I wanted to tell you guys about a fantastic book that’s just now releasing by one of my all time favorite pastors, Randy Frazee.

The Heart of the Story will open your eyes to God’s master plan unfolding in the lives of the Bible characters – and in your own life.  Discover the heart of God’s story and the joy that comes as you align your story with God’s.

To understand the Bible, says Randy you need bifocal lenses, because two perspectives are involved.  The Lower Story, our story, is actually many stories of men and women interacting with God in the daily course of life.  The Upper Story is God’s story, the tale of His great, overarching purpose that fits all the individual stories together like panels in one unified mural. My prayer for you is not complicated. It’s real simple. I desire that you won’t let another day go by without taking hold of this precious life that God has made available for you. I hope you find what’s shared here full of practical ideas and the courage you need to seize the day.

Randy Frazee is senior minister of Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas. Prior to  his role at Oak Hills, he served as the teaching pastor at Willow Creek Community Church and spent 15 years as the senior pastor at Pantego Bible Church in Fort Worth Texas.

I’m so thankful for this book and for Randy’s heart and passion for serving God’s people. The Heart of the Story will prove to be an amazing resource for you and your church. As you breathe in and fully comprehend the intricate, masterful design of God for all of mankind, and see how it’s illustrated continually throughout all of Scripture, your view of God will be forever enlightened and transformed.

God cares infinitely more about who we’re becoming than where we’re going.  This book has the potential to take you to the next level in who you’re becoming.  The more we understand the heart of God’s Story, the more we understand our own. Purchase your copy here.

We’re giving away 5 Free Copies of Randy’s book today.  Just leave your name and city in the comments and you’ll automatically be in for the random drawing.

 

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