WithoutWax.tv by Pete Wilson | Archive | May, 2011
Archive - May, 2011

One For The Record Book

Hope you guys had a great Memorial Day weekend. I know we did.

The highlight of my weekend was a short, but unforgettable, camping trip with the family. We stepped it up a notch this year and went “primitive” camping. In short, this means you don’t have electricity or water. I know it sounds like complete torture to some of you guys but we love it.

While camping I spent an afternoon fly fishing at Burgess Falls with Blake and my son, Jett.

I caught the biggest fish I’ve ever caught on a fly rod, not to mention I landed that sucker on my little 3 weight rod. Jett actually netted him for me which made for a fun memory.

So let’s hear it. What did you do with your long weekend?

Ripoff

The great thing about having friends who blog over to your house is there’s a decent chance something will happen that they’ll blog. And when they do blog whatever happens you can steal it, saving yourself from actually writing a blog post.

If your friend has a camera this “ripoff” will be even easier. Add in a chipmunk and a bunch of kids and you have a fantastic Memorial Day post.

Hope everyone has an amazing Memorial Day today. To the families of the 1.3 million Americans who have given their lives in battle, we honor you, your loved ones and the great sacrifice they’ve made for this amazing country.

And I almost forgot. Thank you Los for the amazing video. Keep cranking these out and I’ll keep inviting you over. :)

Intense Fellowship

So you may find this hard to believe, but Brandi and I do have moments of intense fellowship now and then. We usually fight over the same stupid things most of you probably fight over.

I could list out our last five fights but as I review them every one of them was over things that, looking back, were so insignificant.

I do remember one of my favorite little spats though.

I had just gotten home from our Sunday services at Cross Point and I was starving. I noticed I was about to be served a bowl of soup. A bowl of soup which did not appear as if it was going to fill up this pastor who had just preached four services and was about to pass out. I’m a meat and potatoes kind of a guy.

Brandi happened to be in the other room when she, with her supersonic hearing, heard me whisper under my breath and describe the soup as “This is kind of blah.”

She quickly stormed into the kitchen and said “Listen, you know every meal is not going to be a home run. Do you think every one of your sermons is a home run? Because they aren’t, okay. Some are great, some are kind of average, and some are like this bowl of soup…kind of blah.”

Ouch. That hurt. That really hurt. Our spat lasted a few more minutes and then we made up. I promised I would never make another comment about a meal she fixes. My self esteem can’t take it.

So be honest. What was your last fight about?

The Offended

I’ve noticed lately an increased awareness of just how easily it seems most Christians can get offended (and yes, this can certainly include me).

I talk to people all the time who are just outraged at what SOMEONE HAS…

Said.
Done.
Written.
Preached.
Blogged.

As I listen to their story I’m often reminded how our fragile egos and defensive theology cause us to mistranslate, blow situations out of proportion, and simply believe the worst.

Ken Keyes once said,

More suffering comes into the world by people taking offense than by people intending to give offense.

The offended ones almost always feel the need to offend back those who they think have offended them.

Then the presumed offenders feel the need to defend themselves against the assumed offense thus creating a vicious cycle that hardly resembles the Kingdom of God.

I know this sounds a bit naive but what happened to…

Giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Believing the best in people.
Forgiving others in the way you want to be forgiven.

TRUTH MOMENT: On a scale of 1 to 10 how easily are you offended?

Raise them up

Since I’m traveling back to Nashville this morning I thought I’d take the opportunity to invite my good friend and Cross Point’s Pastor of Ministries Chris Surratt to speak into something he is amazing at and is one of his roles here at Cross Point; raising up leaders. Take it away man.

I want to say thanks to Pete for letting me hang out on WithoutWax.tv today. I feel like the playing field is a little more even here because online – I have amazing hair.  I also smell really good, but you’re just gonna have to trust me on that one.

One of my passions as Ministries Pastor at Cross Point is the need to raise up and empower leaders. We are a fast growing, multi-site church that is in constant need of more leaders. Our staff to attender ratio right now is right at 1/180. The goal for most churches is to be somewhere around 1/100. That ratio causes us to not only get creative with how we do ministry, but it also forces us to empower staff and volunteer leaders to help lead the day-to-day ministry.

If you look at the Scriptures, the idea of raising up leaders is all throughout the Bible. One of my favorite passages is in Exodus 18, where Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, told Moses that he had to raise up leaders to help him or he was going to wear himself and everyone around him out. He told Moses to only do what only he could do – listen to God and teach His ways to the people – and everything else could be handled by other capable men. I also love that Moses did everything that Jethro said and then sent him on his way. Even Moses could only take his in-laws for so long. :)

I think there are 3 important things to remember as you begin to raise up leaders:

1. Give responsibilities and not just tasks

The easiest thing to do in a fast moving organization is to keep people busy doing tasks. In the church world, Sunday comes almost every 7 days (I’m always confused about leap years. Where does that day go?). There’s always something that needs to get done. I think that you avoid burnout with your leaders if you give them ownership. Let your younger leaders make some of the key decisions in their ministry or department. If you feel like you are the only one who can make the decisions, then odds are, you hired the wrong people. But that’s another post for another blog. :) People will rally around a decision that they helped make.

2. Allow them to fail

This is a tough one. Nobody likes to fail, but if no one is allowed to fail occasionally, nothing great will ever happen. I believe that your reaction to their failures will determine the level of their successes. If your leaders are always forced to play it safe because of the fear of failure, world-changing ideas will never happen. The disciples certainly did not play it safe. How many times did Jesus have to pull Peter up after a screw-up? The same Peter that led 3000 people to Christ on the first day of the Church. Leaders need the space to take chances and occasionally fail spectacularly.

3. Always praise publically and criticize privately

I think it’s critical to spend more time catching people doing good than looking for their mistakes. And when that happens, celebrate it big. In front of lot’s of people. When is the last time that you hated it when your boss told you “good job” in front of someone else? I like to start my meetings with staff and volunteers by finding out how they are doing personally. Not just with their role, but how are they doing spiritually? How is their family? If we can’t care for our staff and volunteers, then how are we going to care for the people in our churches? If you always have their back publically, then they will most likely have yours.

What are some ways that you empower leaders?

What things would be helpful to get from the leaders above you?

 

Heaven Is For Real

Yesterday I had the opportunity to visit a part of the country I never thought I would see. Imperial, Nebraska.

I spent the day with the Burpo family. Todd Burpo is the author of the crazy successful book, Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy’s Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back, as well as the pastor of Crossroads Wesleyan Church there in Imperial. If you haven’t read it, it’s an amazing story about his son Colton, (pictured below), who at the age of 4 through a near death experience comes back with an amazing and heartwarming story about visiting Heaven.

Heaven Is For Real has been the number 1 book on the New York Times Best Seller’s list the past 19 weeks.

It’s simply amazing how many of my preconceived (and quite honestly unbiblical) notions about eternity were questioned after spending the day with a now 11-year-old who has such a vivid picture of what Heaven is like.

I spent the day with them as I’m studying for a new series we’re launching at Cross Point in a few weeks entitled “Glimpse: Exploring heaven, hell and what’s to come.”

I’m really looking forward to this series and would love to hear any questions or thoughts you may have about eternity.

What’s a question you’ve always had about eternity but were maybe too scared to ask?

Have you read this book? Any Thoughts?

 

Giving Up My Need To Fix You

MATT 7: 1-5
1 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

If I could sum this passage up I believe it means… TRUST GOD WITH PEOPLE OR YOU’LL BECOME CONTROLLING & JUDGMENTAL.

This is tough for me. Especially when I see people I love making stupid mistakes. I tend to judge them and control them by shaming them or ignoring them. In my effort to help them become a better person I basically push them away.

And my problem isn’t that I’m a judgmental kind of person.

My problem is not that I have such a high sense of what is right and wrong.

My problem isn’t that I care too much.

My problem is I don’t trust God to be God.

I need to stop acting like I’m some spiritual giant that has such an acute sense of what is right and what is wrong and come to grips with the fact that I’m just a control freak.

You see when I begin to understand God’s mercy it frees me from the need to “fix” whoever is wrong.

Entrust all of life to God. Entrust your stuff to God or you will be plagued by worry (Matt 6). Entrust others to God or you will be plagued by control (Matt 7).

How about you? Do you struggle with allowing God to be God or do you always feel like you’ve got to control, ignore, and shame people into becoming who He’s created them to become?

 

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