Comments on: A Need To Be Right

By: Perry

Perry — Wed, 19 May 2010 19:16:19 +0000

What if you really ARE right? I mean obviously right. I suppose it’s a character flaw of mine…I’ve always been outspoken, to a fault. People don’t want to hear “Wow, really man? That’s what you’ve come up with?” Some of it is the Army in me, I should probably pray about it.

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By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:14:29 +0000

Wow, I haven’t been on here in a while, but it is interesting. I was having a conversation with my wife about this exact topic. I know I have hurt her in the past with “being right” but at the same time she told me she admires that about me, that I don’t back down from something I believe in.

I think someone said something about “being right” versus “being kind”. I think that is a false analogy. You can be gentle/kind and still be right.

I like to argue – it hones your thinking and shows where you’re deficit, or haven’t considered something and vice versa. Iron sharpens Iron, one man sharpens another. This is through debate (I think). It’s not easy, and burrs get shaved off in the process but you’re thinking becomes more clear and focused.

For example, I’m in a constant “discussion” with another Christian (via Facebook) who is a republican (as am I) and loves this nation and his guns and his truck. (I’m in the south). But his posts are about rising up, bashing Obama, bashing democrats and other hateful things.

So, we go back and forth, back and forth.

I think maybe I’m a “right fighter” when I believe it’s important to be, but to do it gently.

I’m reminded of Elihu in Job when he speaks. That his spirit welled up within him (paraphrasing) and he couldn’t be quiet, and he was….right.

There can only be 1 truth – always. Neither of us may have it, and we may be equally close to it (thus equally far away from it), but ultimately in any conflict of reason, there can only be 1 truth I think.

Though, maybe I am mistaken because I am reminded of Paul who says that for one it is sin, and for another it is not (weak faith vs. strong faith in eating food sacrificed to idols). I guess the truth there is that if you feel guilty about it then it is a sin for you but not for me since I don’t feel guilty about it.

Sorry, began rambling there I guess.

By: Zee

Zee — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 07:40:13 +0000

Communications seems to be always a touchy subject one should handle with care… We had a similar discussion yesterday with the Church board… so often due to different personalities, different backgrounds, or something, we manage to completely misinterpret the message… even when the person gives up or agrees with us, we still have the urge to prove our point to them…

i wouldn’t say that being right is never worth the price (after all, Jesus wouldn’t die on the cross if he agreed with the pharisees… He did go great lengths to prove His point), but i guess something that we should remember is that 1. we’re not always right, and 2. not to try to prove our point when the person has capitulated, otherwise we will only end up hurting the relationship.

whoops, sorry for rambling

Zee
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By: Andy

Andy — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 19:35:18 +0000

Pete, thanks for this. My wife called me out on this last Friday (yes on Good Friday) and it has been a struggle for me in the past year – less so with colleagues, more so with family. Interesting that it seems to come out with family more than in any other environment. Praying that God will continue to change me here, and that He will do the same for you. Thanks for your honesty and openness.
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By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 18:35:31 +0000

Props to you for recognizing that in your demeanor. I think there is a little bit of that in everyone. I used to be that way, I’m a bit better now. I started nagging horribly at my husband, and the nagging turned into arguing. And naturally, you want to be right in an argument. But it just wasn’t worth hurting my husband or our relationship. So I asked God to help me not to nag so much- I’m a work in progress.

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 15:21:02 +0000

Reading ur other blog post about multi-tasking was like a punch in the gut for me.

This post is like an uppercut followed by a jab.

Thanks a lot.=P

Btw…I won a copy of ur book today! (Over @ refineus) yey! Cant wait to read it!

By: Bill Renfrew

Bill Renfrew — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 14:22:59 +0000

Maybe you ARE right!

Just kidding. You’re not.

Seriously, who doesn’t have this problem? I deceive myself into thinking I’m not doing this by saying, “I’m sorry I said that, but the reason I said that is…” which is translated as “I’m sorry my being right continues to upset you.”