Comments on: I Have A Disease http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/ Thu, 24 May 2012 17:44:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Rachel http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30822 Rachel Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:14:08 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30822 YES. I have the same issue. YES. I have the same issue.

]]> By: Ryan Grammatico http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30744 Ryan Grammatico Tue, 08 Dec 2009 15:39:54 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30744 <-----HAND RAISE! Confession of a people pleaser. And now that I have admitted that, I would love some practical application techniques that you have used that help at some points. .-= Ryan Grammatico´s last blog ..<a href="http://ryangrammatico.wordpress.com/2009/11/17/gramm-africa-2010/" rel="nofollow">Gramm-Africa 2010</a> =-. <—–HAND RAISE! Confession of a people pleaser. And now that I have admitted that, I would love some practical application techniques that you have used that help at some points.
.-= Ryan Grammatico´s last blog ..Gramm-Africa 2010 =-.

]]> By: Charles Hill http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30707 Charles Hill Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:45:28 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30707 I do. By the way bro, do you still like me? .-= Charles Hill´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/blogspot/uMEL/~3/IDVbgQYH0aM/most-top-level-leaders-have-this-1.html" rel="nofollow">Most Top Level Leaders Have This 1 Thing in Common.</a> =-. I do. By the way bro, do you still like me?
.-= Charles Hill´s last blog ..Most Top Level Leaders Have This 1 Thing in Common. =-.

]]> By: Torybee http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30687 Torybee Mon, 07 Dec 2009 04:08:07 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30687 I'm a hopeless people pleaser; really bad. I don't know about your church, but mine has these incentives for my kids in their sunday school class.... if they practice their bible verse, read the bible story, and "live the point" of being kind or grateful or whatever the subject is they get prizes. I grew up doing everything for the prizes as well as the praise. I memorized so many Bible verses and chapters, did all the "right" things to earn prizes, recognition and approval. And I look at my life now and totally struggle with this desire for approval and acceptance. IDK I'm sure that I'd be a people pleaser no matter what but I have a hard time with this expectation of prizes thing at church. .-= Torybee´s last blog ..<a href="http://illustrated-queries.blogspot.com/2009/12/theology-of-santa.html" rel="nofollow">The Theology of Santa</a> =-. I’m a hopeless people pleaser; really bad.

I don’t know about your church, but mine has these incentives for my kids in their sunday school class…. if they practice their bible verse, read the bible story, and “live the point” of being kind or grateful or whatever the subject is they get prizes.

I grew up doing everything for the prizes as well as the praise. I memorized so many Bible verses and chapters, did all the “right” things to earn prizes, recognition and approval. And I look at my life now and totally struggle with this desire for approval and acceptance. IDK I’m sure that I’d be a people pleaser no matter what but I have a hard time with this expectation of prizes thing at church.
.-= Torybee´s last blog ..The Theology of Santa =-.

]]> By: Louise R. http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30686 Louise R. Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:45:36 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30686 I read these posts and realize so many of us have the people pleaser disease to some extent. In this age of blame games, do you feel it is fair for people to turn their blame on their parents for facets of their personality they may have been born with? Parents are not perfect and one day our children will let us know that. You are doing a great job. I read these posts and realize so many of us have the people pleaser disease to some extent. In this age of blame games, do you feel it is fair for people to turn their blame on their parents for facets of their personality they may have been born with?
Parents are not perfect and one day our children will let us know that. You are doing a great job.

]]> By: Alyssa http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30685 Alyssa Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:05:45 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30685 I wasn't even aware I was a people pleaser until sophomore year in college. I was discussing some summer options with my parents and said, "Just tell me what you want me to do and I'll do it." My mom said something to the affect of my people pleasing tendencies scared her. Since then (I'm now 29) I've tried to at least be cognizant of the issue. I find the disease rears its ugly head in my mind more often than in my actions. I'm single. What if I _______, then will a Chrisian man pursue me? That blank could be filled with anything. Lose weight. Stop talking so much. Don't lead as much or as well. Try not to be outspoken. Had a different style. Am not so independent. The list is endless. The disease definitely shows up in other ways too, but the Christmas season is a hard time to be single. It is when I (and other singles) feel the most lonely so it's what came to mind today. I wasn’t even aware I was a people pleaser until sophomore year in college. I was discussing some summer options with my parents and said, “Just tell me what you want me to do and I’ll do it.” My mom said something to the affect of my people pleasing tendencies scared her. Since then (I’m now 29) I’ve tried to at least be cognizant of the issue.

I find the disease rears its ugly head in my mind more often than in my actions. I’m single. What if I _______, then will a Chrisian man pursue me? That blank could be filled with anything. Lose weight. Stop talking so much. Don’t lead as much or as well. Try not to be outspoken. Had a different style. Am not so independent. The list is endless.

The disease definitely shows up in other ways too, but the Christmas season is a hard time to be single. It is when I (and other singles) feel the most lonely so it’s what came to mind today.

]]> By: Mary http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30683 Mary Sun, 06 Dec 2009 06:33:25 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30683 People Pleaser? Oh please, it just rocks my world, but I am working through it. I think the one thing God has shown me this year - I CANNOT change someone's perception of me. I want people to like me and I want to please them, but I can't. I'm learning that as long as I'm good with God and walking in His will, I have to let everything else go. I have to trust that God has it handled. Doesn't mean I don't drive myself just this side of crazy worrying about people being upset with me. Such is life .-= Mary´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.maryrsnyder.com/the-christmas-cat-or-am-i-the-crazy-cat-lady/" rel="nofollow">The Christmas Cat or am I the Crazy Cat Lady</a> =-. People Pleaser? Oh please, it just rocks my world, but I am working through it. I think the one thing God has shown me this year – I CANNOT change someone’s perception of me. I want people to like me and I want to please them, but I can’t.
I’m learning that as long as I’m good with God and walking in His will, I have to let everything else go. I have to trust that God has it handled.
Doesn’t mean I don’t drive myself just this side of crazy worrying about people being upset with me. Such is life
.-= Mary´s last blog ..The Christmas Cat or am I the Crazy Cat Lady =-.

]]> By: Jeremy http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30680 Jeremy Sun, 06 Dec 2009 04:31:08 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30680 Oh man, I have this disease. It's not as bad as it used to be, but I even sometimes want to please people that I don't even like. It's weird, and sad. .-= Jeremy´s last blog ..<a href="http://jeremybarr.com/2009/12/03/welcome/" rel="nofollow">Welcome</a> =-. Oh man, I have this disease. It’s not as bad as it used to be, but I even sometimes want to please people that I don’t even like. It’s weird, and sad.
.-= Jeremy´s last blog ..Welcome =-.

]]> By: Sarah http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30679 Sarah Sun, 06 Dec 2009 04:00:51 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30679 Pete, I think the fact that you want to face it means everything. I struggle with never feeling accepted, which is just another form of wanting to please people. Pete,
I think the fact that you want to face it means everything. I struggle with never feeling accepted, which is just another form of wanting to please people.

]]> By: Pearl http://withoutwax.tv/2009/12/04/i-have-a-disease/comment-page-1/#comment-30674 Pearl Sat, 05 Dec 2009 06:17:37 +0000 http://withoutwax.tv/?p=6530#comment-30674 How do you please people? I have never gotten the knack of this. And how do you choose which ones to please? Because it's just not humanly possible to please them all. .-= Pearl´s last blog ..<a href="http://deepwaterjewels.blogspot.com/2009/07/what-is-god-preparing.html" rel="nofollow">What is God Preparing?</a> =-. How do you please people? I have never gotten the knack of this. And how do you choose which ones to please? Because it’s just not humanly possible to please them all.
.-= Pearl´s last blog ..What is God Preparing? =-.

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