Comments on: Two Words

By: Lori Biddle

Lori Biddle — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:14:03 +0000

Well…I say I’m sorry too often.

I think it’s as big a problem at times as not saying your sorry when you should!

I have found it diffuses tense times so quickly that I throw it around as if it’s just a regular part of my everyday vocabulary.

Problem: kind of like saying, “the sky is falling” too often, people stop believing it’s authentic if I use it too much.

I hate conflict, I really like people to like me, and I LOVE peaceful ministry. So I tend to overuse I’m sorry!
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By: Jason

Jason — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:24:01 +0000

Very well said Pete.
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By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 03:22:25 +0000

I have no problem with I’m sorry. I can say I’m sorry and do almost chronically. My 5 yo walks through Walmart with me now saying “Scuse me, Sorry.” the whole way. However, saying, “will you forgive me?” Yeah, not so easy. It makes me feel much more vulnerable. It’s something we’re trying to practice with the kids though, not just saying I’m sorry, but going the extra step and asking for forgiveness.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:09:07 +0000

You’re right.
But that person probably won’t hear it….long story. And admitting fault isn’t one of my strong points.
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By: Lori

Lori — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 23:17:38 +0000

Very true, Pete. I try very hard to apology when I feel the need is there, which is probably more often than I’d like! Of course, ideally it’s better to watch our tongues and actions in the first place than to apologize later for hurt feelings.
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By: Pete Wilson

Pete Wilson — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:36:38 +0000

@Jay, good point about accepting apologies.

By: Jan C.

Jan C. — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 19:42:40 +0000

What I hate is the “I’m sorry . . . but” apology. “I’m sorry, but you made me do it,” or “I’m sorry, but you hurt me first.” “I’m sorry, (but I’m really not, I’m just trying to get off the hook).”

I get these apologies from my kids a lot, which makes me more aware of the times I give apologies that are still pride-filled and immature, and that miss the mark. It feels so much better to give a sincere, “I’m sorry I hurt you, regardless of my reasoning at the time,” type of apology. It does get easier to do as you get older, but not by much!
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By: Jay

Jay — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 18:28:25 +0000

Let me just add something to the back end of that. We’re often bad at apologizing, but I think people are worse at ACCEPTING apologies.

What is the most common response people give when somebody apologizes to them?

“Oh that’s ok. Don’t worry about it”

That or some variation thereof. Have you ever done that when somebody apologize to you when they hurt you in some way? That person has pushed away their pride to apologize and the best we can do is tell them it was no big deal even if it was?

The first time somebody apologized to me and I said, “Well, I appreciate you saying that. Thank you.”, the person had a mild look of surprise on their face. They clearly were not expecting that reaction and they appreciated that their apology was accepted and not just brushed aside with, “Don’t worry about it.”
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By: ChristianHaiku

ChristianHaiku — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:42:21 +0000

I get my “sorry’s”
At Apologies-R-Us
Variety Pack

Thanks for making us think about that.

By: Ron Edmondson

Ron Edmondson — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:41:50 +0000

I had to be honest about this last week and did a post about it too. ( http://tinyurl.com/yb2g5f2 ) I need to say it probably more often than I do.

Thanks Pete!
Ron Edmondson
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