Comments on: I’m Cheating On My Wife (part 2 of 2) http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/ Thu, 24 May 2012 02:08:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Kristin Zuvich http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8712 Kristin Zuvich Tue, 16 Sep 2008 16:07:50 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8712 Totally agree. Except, of course, that I don't have a wife and kids. Totally agree. Except, of course, that I don’t have a wife and kids.

]]> By: Boomer http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8668 Boomer Fri, 12 Sep 2008 11:52:24 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8668 We don't need you so much that your family suffers. This is the reason after several offers over the past few years I never "went into ministry". People in ministry could rarely tell me how they balance it all. In buisness, I just do as much as I can in the time that is appropriate and hand the rest off to God. We don’t need you so much that your family suffers. This is the reason after several offers over the past few years I never “went into ministry”. People in ministry could rarely tell me how they balance it all. In buisness, I just do as much as I can in the time that is appropriate and hand the rest off to God.

]]> By: brent(inWorship) http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8667 brent(inWorship) Fri, 12 Sep 2008 07:05:44 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8667 Thanks for your honesty Pete. It's an accountability issue to our families and to those we work with. Its a constant burden to balance work and family. We have to realize that even Jesus knew when to rest and retreat. I would agree with Tawny that you understand this. That is why you've laid this out so well and why we can learn from it. Thanks for your honesty Pete. It’s an accountability issue to our families and to those we work with. Its a constant burden to balance work and family. We have to realize that even Jesus knew when to rest and retreat.

I would agree with Tawny that you understand this. That is why you’ve laid this out so well and why we can learn from it.

]]> By: danielle http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8711 danielle Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:14:05 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8711 Pete, These are some really great thoughts. I feel like I cheat a little bit of everything because guilt :shock: drives me to not miss anything and yet at times I'm not fully engaging any part of life. I'll have to get that book. Pete,

These are some really great thoughts. I feel like I cheat a little bit of everything because guilt :shock: drives me to not miss anything and yet at times I’m not fully engaging any part of life.

I’ll have to get that book.

]]> By: jihunpark http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8710 jihunpark Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:10:44 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8710 I loved that last point I would rather be loved than love...WOW good stuff I loved that last point I would rather be loved than love…WOW good stuff

]]> By: angelbearoh http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8709 angelbearoh Thu, 11 Sep 2008 15:01:52 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8709 Although I don't have a family to cheat on, I can see where you're coming from about what motivates it. I want to be loved—or at least liked—for having amazing technological powers that can save my company's customers from cyber-criminals, Murphy's Law, and their own stupidity. I want to pull people's butts out of the fire. I want to be the hero, because that's what I'm led to believe I'm being paid to do. I'm worthless (or so I'm led to think) if I can't do it. I'd give anything to be able to pry my mind out of my job and get it back on my personal life. Although I don’t have a family to cheat on, I can see where you’re coming from about what motivates it. I want to be loved—or at least liked—for having amazing technological powers that can save my company’s customers from cyber-criminals, Murphy’s Law, and their own stupidity. I want to pull people’s butts out of the fire. I want to be the hero, because that’s what I’m led to believe I’m being paid to do. I’m worthless (or so I’m led to think) if I can’t do it.
I’d give anything to be able to pry my mind out of my job and get it back on my personal life.

]]> By: Pete Wilson http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8708 Pete Wilson Thu, 11 Sep 2008 12:21:08 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8708 @tough love, I think you might have missed the point. I wasn't saying that I was struggling with not getting enough praise. My point is that I do get it. And that "praise" if not accepted correctly can lead to an addiction of wanting more. An addiction that can lead you to cheating your family so that you actually work harder to get more of it. I'm in no way saying that I want more. I'm saying that I shouldn't strive for it. I'm saying the love of my family should exceed the desire to try to get others to love me. Either way, thanks for the tough love though. Consider it accepted. I agree this is an area I need work. Your made up email was whimp@google.com. If you're actually a friend of mine then I agree with the name you made up for your email. :) @tough love, I think you might have missed the point. I wasn’t saying that I was struggling with not getting enough praise. My point is that I do get it. And that “praise” if not accepted correctly can lead to an addiction of wanting more. An addiction that can lead you to cheating your family so that you actually work harder to get more of it.

I’m in no way saying that I want more. I’m saying that I shouldn’t strive for it. I’m saying the love of my family should exceed the desire to try to get others to love me.

Either way, thanks for the tough love though. Consider it accepted. I agree this is an area I need work. Your made up email was whimp@google.com. If you’re actually a friend of mine then I agree with the name you made up for your email. :)

]]> By: toughlove http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8707 toughlove Thu, 11 Sep 2008 03:01:48 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8707 Pete, you stated above that "Most of us get quite few accolades for the hard work we put in at the office" You also admit to struggling with that. I just don't see that for you. I have seen videos that count the number of hugs you get each Sunday. I have seen you with your family. I have heard the praise, thanks, and congratulations on your great messages Sunday after Sunday. So here's some tough love....GET OVER IT, you are more loved than most people on any given day and it is well deserved :-) Pete, you stated above that “Most of us get quite few accolades for the hard work we put in at the office” You also admit to struggling with that. I just don’t see that for you. I have seen videos that count the number of hugs you get each Sunday. I have seen you with your family. I have heard the praise, thanks, and congratulations on your great messages Sunday after Sunday. So here’s some tough love….GET OVER IT, you are more loved than most people on any given day and it is well deserved :-)

]]> By: jeff http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8706 jeff Thu, 11 Sep 2008 01:53:43 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8706 Pete, for me the last paragraph of you post hits the target. There is a great Henry Nouwen book ( In the name of Jesus) in which Nouwen reflect on Christian leadership. He says " I am deeply convinced that the Christian leader of the future is called to be completely irrelevant and to stand in this world with nothing to offer but his of her own vulnerable self". In sharing his reflections Nouwen uses two stories for the Gospels: the story of Jesus' temptation in the desert (Matthew4:1-11) and the story of Peter's call to be a shepherd (John21: 15-19). It's a small easy read, I think you would like it. Thanks Pete for offering your vulnerable self, it's the sign of a great Christian leader. Pete, for me the last paragraph of you post hits the target. There is a great Henry Nouwen book ( In the name of Jesus) in which Nouwen reflect on Christian leadership. He says ” I am deeply convinced that the Christian leader of the future is called to be completely irrelevant and to stand in this world with nothing to offer but his of her own vulnerable self”. In sharing his reflections Nouwen uses two stories for the Gospels: the story of Jesus’ temptation in the desert (Matthew4:1-11) and the story of Peter’s call to be a shepherd (John21: 15-19). It’s a small easy read, I think you would like it. Thanks Pete for offering your vulnerable self, it’s the sign of a great Christian leader.

]]> By: Ginger http://withoutwax.tv/2008/09/10/im-cheating-on-my-wife-part-2-of-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8705 Ginger Wed, 10 Sep 2008 22:34:36 +0000 http://pwilson.wordpress.com/?p=1723#comment-8705 I think you are on target, I think we do cheat on the one we love, whether that be a spouse, ourselves, our God, this is something that I deal with as well. I am very busy in life, my job, those things I do at church, that I find I am cheating on God. Not spending enough time with Him, placing the busy work at church prior to my relationship. I felt that this morning prior to reading your post. I think you for your honesty. I think the title is good, I got it, know what you are saying. I am anxious to hear your new series... someday I am going to have to come visit your church. Be blessed for I am sure our Daddy is smiling at you. I think you are on target, I think we do cheat on the one we love, whether that be a spouse, ourselves, our God, this is something that I deal with as well. I am very busy in life, my job, those things I do at church, that I find I am cheating on God. Not spending enough time with Him, placing the busy work at church prior to my relationship. I felt that this morning prior to reading your post. I think you for your honesty. I think the title is good, I got it, know what you are saying. I am anxious to hear your new series… someday I am going to have to come visit your church. Be blessed for I am sure our Daddy is smiling at you.

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