Are You Kidding Me?
As a pastor I’ve been a part of a few strange weddings, but never anything like this…
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If you could change anything about your wedding ceremony, what would you change?
I would have to go with a better video. I way underestimated how cool it would’ve been to have great video of the entire day. Too bad I wasn’t blogging back then. My little flip video cam would’ve been awesome!
Let’s hear it…
i would elope. nah… my wedding was incredible. It was all about the wife anyway…
This clip is even cooler because of the narrator’s calm voice… no excitement please….
first…they’re certifiable!! change anything about my wedding? maybe better/more photos. they’re not bad-not totally awesome either. i’m glad that i have the memories. the wedding was awesome. my favorite man in the world walked me to husband. dad made me cry. iremembered another thing…steve forgot my wedding band in his apartment at college-2hrs away! s’ok-we had a stand in.
change the camera angle for the wedding video…it was my first shot at the bald spot creeping in…i’ve been damaged ever since!!!
Woah, I posted before Brad! I never do that!
I would change the photographer. From her 40+ year old self in booty shorts and a leopard print shirt at the rehearsal, to the dark and grainy photos, to hitting on the pastor performing the ceremony…
Photos seem to be the one thing, more than anything else that you look back upon. You can’t spend enough for a good photographer!
@Clayton Bell, Classic!
umm….the crying. I was a mess as soon as my wife walked down the isle. looking at the dvd of our wedding we laugh.. b/c you see my wife and she is looking all cool calm and collected.. and then pan to her mess of a man crying like an idiot.
Besides the crying.. I do wish we would have better video for out wedding day.
good times.
I’d say our wedding coordinator,she’d be gone. Losing the bouquet doesnt sit to well with the bride in my experience…..
@Jared Woodard, I would have thought you’d say the bestman. Since he lost the ring and all?
You guys wedding is one of many that bring back some very fond memories.
I would have eloped…
OK… Honestly….Not much I would have changed. (this may be corny ,but I am ok with that.) Looking back God put the right woman into my life. My wife was stunning, and still is. My whole family was there. My Dad was happy he didn’t have to pay for it. (He had been through the weddings of his seven daughters before me.) I really wouldn’t change a thing.
I would have had it inside with air conditioning.
I would have changed everything. We had planned to go on a cruise. My parents would pay for us, them & his mom & dad (who were divorced & remarried). His mom complained because they couldn’t afford the 1/2 price discount we got for any other family that wanted to attend.
I was sick of the misery & gave in. We had a big whoop de doo wedding….that I hated. The end result was the same though. =)
Joe & I got married at one of the local county clerk’s office. A few days later that county clerk was busted for drinking and illegal substances on the clock (in his sacred office). We’re still not sure our wedding was legal since it may have been performed by someone who was termporarily “checked out”, but we pretend at least. I would probably change most of that. LOL But I have never regretted that our whole wedding cost about $100.
If I could change anything I would have had more video interviews from the guests. Some of my wedding party and guests have passed away, moved away, gotten married or had children, or otherwise have become somewhat detached from my life. I want to look back at the time when I was married and remember those who shared that day with me. I also wouldn’t mind having a video of the night before when my brother Travis and my groomsmen hazed me until 1 am. I want to know everyone who was responsible for that!
I was going to say the photographer because he was a real klutz… he tripped over the curb and dented the limo with his head. But after thinking about it, that is one of the moments that makes our wedding stand out and we still laugh about it (don’t worry – no photographers were hurt in the making of this family).
Well, I’d keep the bagpipes that we had for the processional and recessional, but if I could do it over again I’d probably go for a smaller wedding.
Nothing. I had no gown, no tux, no decorations, no cake. None of the billion distractions that come along with the traditional wedding. DeMonty and I got married at a surprise birthday party. HIS surprise birthday party. His family tried to plan it without his knowledge, but he found out. We decided that would be the perfect time to get married. We had always talked about our wedding, but it always came back to one thing. We weren’t concerned with the wedding becuase so many people tend to get wrapped up in the insignificant details surrounding the ceremony and reception. We wanted on the lifetime that the wedding was to bring. So, at the end of the party, his pastor came up to give the closing prayer (or that’s what everyone else thought he was there to do), but instead he called DeMonty and I to the front and said that he was there to marry us. The reaction was wonderful because DeMonty and I had been through ALOT during our off and on 8 year relationship that no one expected to hear that we were getting married right then and there. An engagement announcement, maybe, but not a wedding. It was short and simple and the happiest day of my life.
My uncle who is a pastor married us. He had me marrying my brother. It was okay – the family was used to those type of things happening with him.. LARGE family! And he did all the marrying – needless to say – he’s glad he doesn’t have to do that any more. An uncle on my other side of the family offered to video for us. GREAT! Wrong…. he was positioned in such a way where mainly what we got was the flickering of all those candles! Very little real video of the wedding itself. We still laugh about it to this day. Oh, and we also had a Restless Heart song in the wedding. I would have had the groom sing it, but he couldn’t because he would have cried…. He got all teary just holding my hand, looking me in the eyes, and mouthing the words.
What I would change? God was not number one in my life then. Oh, sure I had my fire insurance… but He was not Lord and King. Same thing with hubby as well. Our wedding ceremony would have been much different had that been the case. That’s why we make a decision each day to have the type of marriage and family He would have us to have. Or at least die trying… to self…
I could have done without the tropical storm at our outdoor (with no back-up plan) wedding
Otherwise it was just what we had hoped for 
I wouldn’t have had one!
What I mean is that I would have ditched the whole fancy wedding and spent the money on a REAL honeymoon on a beach somewhere vs. a little apartment on Lake Belton, Texas, for three days.
Not bitter about it, though
well i am still single, but that looks awesome and i am NOT a daredevil to say the least. i would have loved to be a guest at that wedding! i bet the reception was cool, can you imagine?
i’d have gotten a better photographer. and would have only gone with a matron of honor and best man and scrapped all the others, since they’re no longer in my life anyway!
I would have had a bigger party after the wedding!
Wouldn’t change a thing – it was relaxed and fun, yet a bit too formal for who I am today. But it was a great reflection of who we were then and what God was doing in our lives. And. . .we had an a pretty cool best man. . .
We got married in ’89 – so, we had ’80′s music & fashion’ – not sure I would change it but it is definitely VERY funny now!
I think we would change our photographer – we went the cheap route with a friend of the family… ugh. No good.
@amyc, your wedding was a blast!
whatever makes you happy i guess. that is so strange. i have yet to get married, but i sure do hope to have a big thrown down reception with lots of dancing!(if i can afford it)
I would have gotten a picture of you actually eating the goldfish.
I am going to have to go with all the crying! I cried through the entire thing, and what Jared said that horrible wedding coordinator! But what a fun party it was!
I’ve never been married but I’ve sang at more weddings than I remember (literally, I’ve had people come up and talk to me about my singing at their wedding and I don’t remember them… occupational hazard, I guess). Anyway, at a friend’s wedding they had rehearsal in the morning and the wedding in the evening. I show up to rehearsal and the piano player LITERALLY was having some sort of breakdown. We’d go to do a song and she would just randomly hit keys like a two year old and not realize she wasn’t playing the song.
Soooo… I sang the whole blessed wedding without the piano and threw in the Ave Maria for the processional and This is the Day for the recessional… just because I already knew them. I’m pretty sure that was stressful enough to make up for not having my own stressful wedding day.
sara
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I would have worn a fly mask! We had an outdoor wedding, and just as we got to that sweet mushy moment in the middle of the ceremony where the music is playing and the bride and groom are standing there talking quietly to each other, a bug flew straight up my nose! I tried to be all cool and discreet about it by tipping my head back ever so slightly and asking my husband to try to look up my nostrils to see if he could see it. He started laughing and couldn’t stop and I just kept standing there saying “Seriously…a bug just flew up my nose! Is it still there?” It was all caught on tape too, which made it even better!
Wedding? Who needs a wedding, just go buy two wedding rings and no one ever knows the difference. It Saves a lot of time and money too! Just kidding of course…
A video period would have been nice, we did get some good pictures. 1. Would have moved the day back by a couple of years…we got married very young (Nicki 18 / Me 19). 2. Spent more time and money on pre-marital counseling versus post-marital counseling. 3. A bigger place. We got married in a wedding chapel which only held a small number of people. It was still a great day!
I would not like the plane idea, you could not kiss the bride!
my wedding was too long!!
I would buy a bride and groom for my cake. The lady who made it neglected to mention that I had to buy the set separately. Whatever. I was blissfully unaware of the mad dash to find a bride and groom (they didn’t sell them at Wal-Mart then), but I would change it so my mother and my aunt could be a little less frazzled.
i think the only thing i would change would also be the wedding video. something more detailed that captured more of our friends and family for us.
i remember absolutely loving my wedding day and thinking it was the most fun i’d ever had.
ive been thinking a lot about our wedding lately. brent and i are having our 17th anniversary on the 18th of this month. so ive been off in dream land a bit. we didnt know a lot of people at the church we were married in. his father was the senior pastor. we had been there a year already..but friends were super hard to make. so our wedding party was…brents dad, his brother as his best man and his mom as my “best woman”. i know! pathetic!!!! the only good thing about that…is if i had to do it over, there is NO way id be able to choose ONE maid of honor!
I got married on a party barge on Lake Okeechobee. My mother in law decorated the boat- she hated me, so I would do the decorating myself next time.
Can’t say that “The Hub” and I came up with a creative-type wedding! We did the usual church-thing, white dress, attendants, flowers and a church-basement reception. I can say here that while we invited Jesus to the wedding…we didn’t invite Him to the marriage and it took many years to get alot of stuff sorted out because of that.
However I am jumping in there due to what seems like a blog-series. You asked in an earlier post if any had “communication” issues! Is the Pope Catholic I’d have to ask?! That’s something that’s been life-long for The Hub and I as he’s a guy and well…I’m a gal! We were created differently…in fact there’s ALOT of books out there written to address this issue. For example…one is called “Men Are Like Waffles and Woman are Like Spagetti”. Haven’t read it, I confess, but have heard the authors interviewed and the context is that men’s brains are compartmentalized. In other words they aren’t “random”…women are…thus the “all over the place” kind of thinking! We all talk that way too! Oh…and if you ask a guy what he’s thinking, he might say “nothing!” and that would be correct!!! Every woman I know (me included) can’t for the life of us figure THAT one out!!
Now to the post at hand…WHY (?) in the world would anyone want to hitch themselves both figuratively and for sure to an airplane to get married???? That is really, really weird!
I do want to address the person a couple of jots up from me who said family members were their wedding party….THAT isn’t pathetic at all but quite sweet. Our dear son and DIL did something quite similar and it made the day all the more special to be a part of their wedding. My husband was best man, her mom matron of honor, me, our daughter, her sister were brides-attendents and her brother and dad groom’s attendants. It was a lovely,lovely day!
I also would change the photographer, and (this is going to sound so ‘girly’,) but I would have spent the extra money and had my nails done (fake) with a french manicure — seriously. I hate how my nails look in our pictures – we went the cheap (do at home nails) route – and I’ve always regretted it — but I guess none of that matters – because 11 years later, if that is all I have to complain about, I’m doing pretty good
@Jill, there is nothing more annoying to me than a bride with bad nails.
Let’s see, my wife and I (married 21 years this month) would change the best man, the maid of honor, the tux, the cake, her ring, and the dress. We’de ditch the church, the organ, and 2/3 of the guest list, most of whom were friends of our parents. We’de go out of doors and have real food, dancing and the option of alcohol at the reception. Mostly, for me anyway, I would NOT repeat my rendition of Just The Way You Are at the reception. I can sing but I’m no Billy Joel (Hey, it was the 80′s). Short of the flowers, limo, and honeymoon, we’de redo just about everything EXCEPT our vows to each other and Jesus.
A different preacher! There I said it. Notice I said “preacher”. The guy preached for i hour and 45 min. and none of it had to do with marriage or the like. It was not to us it was to the audience. He forgot he was there we think. He had a church full and was taking complete advantage of it. He gave us each a Bible verse out of Ps. 84 and that is all we retained from his sermon. And he eventually announced us as hubs and wife!! Woo HOO! But it lasted us the past 23 years!!!!!!!!
@Kath, that has to be a world record! Holy cow.
i would never hve gotten married
Cool! My dad’s a pilot, but I don’t think he would have let me try that stunt!
I would have had it start a little earlier so that we could have had more time afterwards. It was great, but I would have liked to hang around for say 3-4 days with all my friends and family instead of a few hectic days before and a few hours after. At least we had a sit down reception which I REALLY recommend, as you never get to see the bride/groom at those cocktail receptions … and I’m so small anyway!
I wish I wasnt so sleepy(I couldnt sleep the previous night, thought I would be late for the wedding). Otherwise I wouldnt change anything about the wedding, everything was Just the way we wanted it.
Hmmm, funny you should ask ;0) I gave my hubby-to-be a mere one task to complete, besides being at the alter (if you can call it that, we were married in an 18th century barn, AWESOME wedding) when I got to the end of the aisle. I told him to hire the photographer, since he knew him, I thought this would go smoothly. Do I need to go on and tell you if I could change anything about our wedding I would have hired the guy myself and would now be able to enjoy looking at photos of our wedding whenever I like? On the bright side, it will be five years ago in Sept. and I think I’m getting closer to forgiveness. We’ll see what this years anniversary brings!!!