Comments on: Do You Understand Me?

By: hilarity in communication | Worship Journey

hilarity in communication | Worship Journey — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 10:57:04 +0000

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By: Courtney

Courtney — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 22:39:26 +0000

Wow this is a tough question to respond to. I agree it’s very diffcult to talk to a spouse or a partner in a relationship. I think it’s because we are so focused on what not to say so an agruement does not form that the main focus never gets targeted in the conversation. It’s so much easier bottling everything up then facing it.

By: Jack Hager

Jack Hager — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:13:18 +0000

The very best book I’ve ever read on marriage is “Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti” by the Farrels. Anyone in relationship will be well served by reading this book together…

By: tam

tam — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 23:10:47 +0000

no. if they would stop to listen long enough they would know that i communicate quite well. its the listening stuff hehe (tongue in cheek here) sorta

By: kindredspirits1960

kindredspirits1960 — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 21:25:19 +0000

We often find that we are saying the same thing but in different ways. Part of this comes from the fact that she comes from Chicago while I am from Tennessee. Another think that plays a role in how we interperet things is how we were treated in our former marriages. We have learned that when we have a misunderstanding that sometimes it is best to just wait for a while to discuss things instead of just trying to push our way through. The same is true in dealing with our teenage children. Although as aparent we want to get in the last word and make our point sometimes it is best to just take a break and try a little latter.

By: candidchatter

candidchatter — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 21:25:04 +0000

While I’m listening, I’m really thinking of what I’m going to say next when his mouth stops moving.

Is that listening?

Communication – schamunication

Blah!! Who has the time?!

LOL!

Heidi Reed

By: Kristin Zuvich

Kristin Zuvich — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:16:48 +0000

When I watched this, I chuckled. And then…I laughed. LOUDLY.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 19:35:10 +0000

My husband and I have both taken some really good and effective communications courses for our jobs (some of the same ones even, but not at the same time!) and when we’re really struggling to communicate on something it helps A LOT if we stop and consciously apply some of the communication skills we’ve picked up in our professional lives to our relationship. It might sound a bit cold at first, but in the end it has brought us closer together and helped us understand each other better.

By: sara

sara — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 18:34:27 +0000

Single here… but my dog usually gets his point across without a problem. Does that count?

sara
http://www.gitzengirl.blogspot.com

By: outofthecleft

outofthecleft — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 18:23:14 +0000

We’ve been together for almost eighteen years and this is still the number one issue. A good therapist helped us learn some skills a few years ago; they keep us sane. And together. It is still a struggle (to communicate, not to stay together). It’s funny because when we humans meet somebody, spouse included, we communicate like crazy. We do it well for a while at least. Then one day, I don’t know. Do we decide we already know everything our s.o. might have to say? Do we stop caring how our words sound? Are we just selfish in how we communicate?